Everyone
knows the Kama Sutra is ancient India's
racy sex manual. The title conjures titillating visions
of erotic frescos in which regal maharajas with outsized
genitals cavort with naked bejeweled nymphs in positions
exotic enough to slip the discs of a yoga master.
Kama
Sutra literally means "treatise on sexual
pleasure." Unlike the Christian view that the sole
purpose of sex is procreation, in the fourth century
Hindu world that gave birth to the Kama Sutra, the
cultivation of sexual pleasure, independent of
procreation, was considered one of life's highest
callings. The ancient Hindus believed that life had
three purposes: religious piety (dharma), material
success (artha), and sexual pleasure (kama). All three
were equal, and the erotic was celebrated as the seat of
earthly beauty. In the Hindu world the pursuit of sexual
pleasure was revered as a sort of religious quest..
The
Kama Sutra was written by one Vatsyayana
Mallanaga, about whom nothing else is known. However,
from the text, it's clear that he was upper-class. He
takes servants for granted, and assumes his readers have
the leisure time to seduce virgins and other men's
wives, and the money to buy the gifts he recommends
giving to do so. Vatsyayana also claims to have written
his treatise "in chastity and highest
meditation." It's hard to know what to make of
this. Some commentators have scoffed that, given the
subject matter, this seems highly unlikely. But
considering the reverence with which the ancient Hindus
approached matters sexual, it's also possible that
Vatsyayana wrote his book with the gravity of, say, a
modern-art critic discussing a cache of just-discovered
erotic paintings by Picasso. We'll never know.
The Kama Sutra may be the ancient world's most famous
sex book, but it was by no means the first. The Chinese
had sex manuals 500 years earlier, and Ovid's "Ars
Amatoria," a handbook for courtesans, preceded the
"Kamasutra" by some 200 years. The Kama
Sutra is not even the first Indian sex guide.
Vatsyayana mentions several sages who trod his erotic
path before him.
The sexual culture it describes is also surprisingly
like our own. While the Kama Sutra describes girls and
women as dependent on their fathers, husbands and adult
sons - in the manner of women in today's Arab Middle
East - in the India of the text, they enjoyed an
independence and freedom of movement Saudi or Pakistani
women can only dream of. While their wealthy fathers and
husbands were running businesses and the government -
not to mention fucking around - young women were often
free to date men and select their own husbands, and
married women were free to select lovers and entertain
them.
The Kama Sutra is organized in seven
sections that track men through life. In Book 1, the
bachelor sets up his pad. In Book 2, he perfects his
sexual techniques. This is the book that has inspired
the videos, games and everything else that flies the
Kama Sutra flag. In Book 3, our young man seduces a
virgin. In Book 4, he marries and sets up a household
for his wife and servants. By Book 5, he has grown
sexually bored with his wife, and turns to seducing
other men's wives. Eventually, as he ages, the effort
necessary for such dalliances loses its charm, so in
Book 6, he takes up with courtesans, who work to please
him - but for a price. Finally, in old age, he fears he
is losing his potency and attractiveness, so Book 7
contains recipes for herbal potions to preserve them.
Although
Vatsyayana was a man writing for men, some of the Kama
Sutra speaks directly to women: Book 3 tells virgins how
to attract husbands. Book 4 instructs women how to be
good wives. Book 6 deals with the skills required of
courtesans - including how they should provide for their
own old age by stealing from their patrons. This
information does not seem odd until you realize that in
fourth century India, few if any women could read. It's
not clear how they obtained the Kama Sutra's
information. Apparently, some did. Presumably literate
men read it to them, as clergy a few centuries ago read
the Bible to illiterate congregants.
Book
2, the sex manual, recognizes women as full, lusty
participants in sex, and exhorts men to learn
ejaculatory control to last long enough to bring them to
orgasm: "Women love the man whose sexual energy
lasts a long time, but they resent a man whose energy
ends quickly because he stops before they reach a
climax." (Apparently, Vatsyayana didn't know that
many women never reach orgasm solely from intercourse no
matter how long it lasts.) Nonetheless, the Kama Sutra
is very attentive to women's pleasure, a view that
arrived in our culture only a few decades ago, a view
still lost on many men.
Book 2 also instructs men to treat women in such a way
"that she achieves her sexual climax first."
How can a man do this? By following Book 2's extensive
discussion of the fine points of what today we called
"foreplay" -- embracing, kissing, and other
types of touch calculated to heighten sexual arousal.
The "Kamasutra" gets a little wild here. It
touts slapping and spanking with accompanying shrieks
and moans, and is particularly enamored of scratching
and biting: "There are no keener means of
increasing passion than acts inflicted by tooth and
nail." It even sings the praises of scars caused by
erotic scratching. It considers them advertisements of
erotic prowess: "Passion and respect arise in a man
who sees from a distance a young girl with the marks of
nails cut into her breasts."
Book 2 advocates use of sex toys, and suggests sex while
bathing. It also describes how a man can best satisfy
two women at the same time (fondle one while having
intercourse with the other), and how two or more men
should comport themselves when sexually sharing one
woman (take turns having intercourse, and while one is
inside her, the others should fondle her).
Earlier I mentioned the Kama Sutra's unexpected aversion
to oral sex. Vatsyayana declares, "It should not be
done because it is opposed to the moral code." But
apparently, he understood that ancient Indian men
enjoyed blow jobs as much as men do today, because after
condemning oral sex, he provides elaborate instructions
to women on how to perform what the Kamasutra calls
"sucking the mango." Then Vatsyayana
reiterates his condemnation of oral sex, saying it
should be enjoyed only with "loose women, servant
girls, and masseuses" with whom a man "does
not bother with acts of civility." Finally, in an
ambivalent aside, he allows that some men enjoy sucking
each other's mangoes, and that some even perform
cunnilingus: "Sometimes men perform this act on
women, transposing the procedure for kissing a
mouth."
In Book 3, the Kama Sutra insists that men who seduce
virgins do so very tenderly. It advises courting a
virgin for many days before bedding her. The suitor
should engage her in interesting conversation, shower
her with gifts, play board games with her, and work to
win her trust, all the while remaining sexually
abstinent to set her at ease. As the big moment
approaches, he should send her little sculptures of
goats and sheep with major erections. If she takes the
hint, she should signal her willingness by flashing him
-- "revealing the splendid parts of her body."
Finally, they make a date to meet and have sex.
But tenderness toward women goes only so far in the Kama
Sutra." If a virgin is unwilling to go all the way,
men are instructed to have a brother ply her with
liquor, and "when the drink has made her
unconscious, he takes her maidenhead," i.e. he
rapes her. In the Kamasutra's view, rape is acceptable
not only for reluctant virgins, but also for other
women: "A man may take widows, women who have no
man to protect them, wandering women ascetics, and women
beggars ... for he knows they are vulnerable ..."
The Kamasutra devotes only nine pages to the care of
wives in Book 3, but almost three times the real estate,
26 pages, to Book 4, the seduction of other men's wives.
It exhorts wives to be doting, dutiful, careful managers
of servants, and always well-mannered, well-dressed and
faithful. But it also assumes that wives eventually bore
their husbands. As a result, a man is perfectly
justified in seducing other men's wives, who are
exciting, challenging, worthy of indefatigable pursuit,
and great fun in bed. If a wife discovered that her
husband had been unfaithful, she was over a barrel. In
fourth century India, she couldn't leave him as a modern
woman might. She was obligated to remain dutiful. But
the Kama Sutra allows her to be "mildly
offended" and "scold him with abusive
language." However, she was forbidden to resort to
"love sorcery," i.e. herbal potions, to win
him back, presumably because that might ruin his
well-deserved adulterous fun.
When it comes to seducing other men's wives, the
Kamasutra is not above a little shameless self-promotion
either. It asks: Which men are the most successful at
it? Those "who know the Kamasutra."
The Kamasutra's matter-of-fact acceptance of infidelity
is tempered by only one caveat: Men were not to go that
route if it was likely to "bring disaster,"
i.e. violence or financial reverses. To prevent
disaster, the "Kamasutra" lists women who
should be avoided, notably those who are "well
guarded or with their mothers-in-law." Once a man
has selected an eligible extramarital target, the Kama
Ssutra instructs him to woo her with all the focus and
creativity he would bring to courting a virgin, except
that in the case of another man's wife, he had to be
more stealthy and deceptive, which made the chase all
the more exciting and intellectually diverting.
Of course, if a man seduced another man's wife, chances
were good that some other sexually itchy gent might
decide to seduce his. Wives were expected to be
faithful, but with so many men getting action on the
side, many wives must also have been cheating. The Kama
Sutra concludes its discussion of extramarital affairs
by saying that it does not advocate philandering, but
rather seeks to prevent it by describing all the ways
libidinous lotharios might cuckold them in order to warn
husbands worried about their wives' wandering eyes.
Given the extraordinary detail with which the Kama Sutra
describes infidelity, I doubt that any fourth century
reader believed this. (The KamaSutra does not discuss
how a husband should deal with a wife's infidelities,
but I doubt that all she got was a scolding.)
In the end, the Kama Sutra describes a highly sexual
world, one that does not condemn unbridled pleasure as
our culture does, but prefers amoral pleasure that's
somewhat restrained simply because it's easier for all
concerned. It's a sexual world committed to erotic
tenderness, yet capable of casual cruelty, a lusty world
that venerated sex for its own sake, not just for
procreation.